#need someone to cuddle with

[sleepydragonforever]

[skunkes]

wanted to draw the sleep chart for some reason

[sylebs]

GOOD MORNING TO ME I FUCKING GUESS HOLY SHIT 😭😭

[untitledgoosegay]

re last reblog I do see fanfic culture pushing/replicating a certain model of "what trauma looks like," "how trauma works"

this is a problem across all areas of society obviously, but transformative works are, well, transformative. they're about crafting and modifying narratives where the fan-creator sees a flaw or a lack -- often for the better! don't get me wrong, I've done my fair share of "I take a hammer and I fix the canon," it's the main thing that gets my creative gears spinning -- but what happens when that "flaw" is simply a narrative not conforming to popular expectations?

some people just don't get PTSD from events that sound obviously traumatic. they're not masking, and they're not coping; they just straight-up didn't get the permanently-locked stress-response that defines PTSD. they walk away from a horrible experience going "well, that sucked, but it's over now." some people do get PTSD from events most people wouldn't find traumatic. we don't really know why some people get PTSD and others don't. but fandom has an idea of events that must be traumatizing, of a "correct" way to portray trauma. you see the problems with this lack of understanding in e.g. fans pressuring the devs of Baldur's Gate 3 to add dialogue where the player character badgers Halsin about his own feelings on his abuse -- because he must be traumatized, and his trauma must fit a certain mold and presentation of sexual trauma, under the mistaken impression that anything outside that narrow window is somehow "wrong" and disrespectful or even harmful to survivors.

take, for another example, the very common trope of a traumatized character who hates touch or sex "learning" to like touch or sex as a part of their healing process. certainly that can be healing for some people; other people will never like, or want, touch or sex, because of trauma or because they just don't. the assumption that someone who doesn't want sex or doesn't like to be touched must be traumatized, must be suffering from this perceived lack, is seriously harmful -- to asexual people, to people with sensory issues around touch, and to people for whom healing from trauma means freedom to refuse sex or touch.

and there's a secondary trope, one that's slightly more thoughtful but ultimately repeats the problem -- that once someone has learned that their boundaries will be respected, they'll feel it's safe to soften those boundaries. once they feel safe refusing touch or sex, they'll feel comfortable allowing it on their own terms. but many people don't, and many people won't! many people will simply never want to be touched, and never want sex, and they are not suffering or broken or lacking because of it. the idea that proving you'll respect someone's boundaries entitles you to test those boundaries -- the paradox is obvious, and yet this is something i've seen hurt (re-traumatize) people i care for.

people are imperfect victims. people don't heal in the ways you expect. many people have positive memories of their abuse, of their abusers. many people hurt others in the course of their trauma, in ways that can't easily be unpacked in a 5k oneshot. very few narratives of trauma and recovery actually fit the ones put forward by popular children's media and romance novels -- which are the ones I most see replicated in fandom spaces, because they provide the clearest narrative and easiest catharsis, and so they're easy and soothing to reach for.

that's not necessarily a bad thing! i am not immune to goopy romance tropes. i am not immune to teary catharsis. not every fic has to grapple with ugly realities. but there's a problem when these narratives become predominant, when people think they're accurate and realistic depictions of trauma, when the truth of trauma is unpleasant and uncomfortable, and doesn't fit any single narrative, let alone one of comforting catharsis

[natgf123]

What winter looks like with ellie!<33

(guys what do we think Abt how the different stations look like w Ellie series??)

[benevolenterrancy]

@hereticcryptid i'm late responding to this prompt, but have a continuation on baxia and hensheng wanting more cuddles than one would normally expect from a spiritual sword!

[conspicuous-clown-car]

what a strange thing, to hold and be held

[mondstalgia]

the hug just dropped! (no audio available)

[alexanndrite]

most tragic part of 17776/20020 is that the silly space probes cant hug. cant cuddle. cant pile together like bunnies. truly a sick and twisted world..

[nonranghaes]

"it's just me."

you barely get a chance to roll onto your back before soonyoung's already climbing onto the bed and somewhat on top of you and your blankets, and it's only seconds later that he crashes. it's far from the first time this has happened (soonyoung is clingy and cuddly, especially when he's sleepy), but he manages to knock the wind out of you nonetheless. he rests his head on your chest, and you wiggle an arm out to curl around him as best as you can in your semi-trapped position.

"soonyoung--"

"just go back to sleep," he murmurs. "everything's fine."

you stroke his hair, thumb dipping down to graze his cheek at one point. "soonie--"

"i mean it," he says, eyes peering up in the low light to see yours. "i'm fine. just need to nap." his hand finds yours, and he wraps your arm around him as he snuggles in. he plants a kiss against your chest before resting his head against it again, eyes fluttering shut. "you can rest a little longer, too."

you settle back down after a moment, arms wrapped around soonyoung as you shut your eyes again. sometimes you swear this tiger is a teddy bear, but regardless of which he is, he's yours.

[princess-kittyxoxo]

at the end of the day ~

~ at least there's tits

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[asmoreous]

Craving someone soft and comfy

- “Baby have you eaten today? Let me order us some pizza or make you some soup!”

- “Aweee honey you look so cute eating!”

- “Don’t worry darling, I’ll rub your tummy to help you feel better.”

- “I know you just finished dinner but I made some cookies for you to eat while you play your games tonight :)”

- “Honey come here I need to cuddle my big teddy bear <3”

- “You’re getting so big baby!”

- “I know your feeling full, but I have some desert for you if you’d like!”

- “I brought some snacks for the road incase you get hungry!”

- “you look practically starved! Can I get you something to munch on?”

-“Don’t worry, I’ll take care of you tonight.”

[hestiashearthandfire]

whoever likes or reblogs this or simply DMs me, you have given me permission to lay and cuddle on you and cling

[masakuterarr]

HxH Blog AU : Doodles

here. have doodle. I have to work ;_;

[ominousgradient]

Smth that does bother me is how often i see people assume that Snotlout doesn’t like physical affection, when he seems overjoyed whenever he gets some and he has no problem intiating it himself. Same with praise, he's practically glowing whenever he recieves it, it’s really cute ! I guess the assumtion is that he wouldn't be used to it from home? But it just doesn’t seem to affect him in that way, if anything i would assume he's touch starved

[sodapopper]

Darry is the kind of guy to sit on his siblings when they’re being intentionally obnoxious.

Soda gets sat on at least once a day.